|Posted on Friday, March 02, 2007 - 05:34 pm: ||
My thoughts and prayers go with you Ron. May God guide the hands of those working with your Dad.
May you always have a notebook and a pen that's full of ink.
|Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 10:42 pm: ||
Ron I sure do feel for ya fella. Tough position to be in. I also agree that you should and must go to him asap. As should your sister. I would also immediatley call the VA and ask questions and get answers. The VA is has many tremendous care facilities. and from what you say it appears that you dad may have to be placed in one. I can attest to their wonderful doctoring and prompt service and quality care. I shall be praying for you and also for your dad. ~Jacie~
~Jacie Stralko Duca~
|Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 08:20 pm: ||
I shall keep you in my thoughts and prayers, may the Lord guide you and give you strength.
|Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 05:49 pm: ||
What a lot of weight has been placed on your shoulders, and, because of past circumstances, the weight is even heavier. No one can really tell you what you should do, but you are right that you need to go there and find out exactly what is going on and what the prognosis is. And, get a second opinion too. If you need someone to simply listen, you can always e-mail me. Best of luck.
Peace and Love,
|Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 02:30 pm: ||
May God guide your heart and hand at this incrediblely difficult hour.
|Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 02:18 pm: ||
Ron, my prayers goes up for you and your family at this very difficult time.
Lesa Gay Aspiring Angel
|Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 12:58 pm: ||
My heart goes out to you Ron and your family.
These are very difficult times. Sounds like
there are multiple problems to see yet how
they go. I will be remembering your father
and you/your family in prayer. I had to make
the decision also in 2001 for the machines to
be turned off for my son. His was a sudden
illness - bacterial mengitis (from an ear infection)
and it rendered him brain dead in
hours. Stay strong, be careful if your traveling for
weather conditions seem to be
so bad everywhere right now. God bless and
keep you. Mary Anne^j^
~ Mary Anne Ray ~
God's Little Whispers
|Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 12:25 pm: ||
I truly sympathize with you Ron. I was forced to make this decision with my older son in 2001 when his long-term illness became critical in a single heartbeat. All of other children and the doctors had input but the weight falls directly on your shoulders. Do the best you can. Try for peace in your heart although grief will accompany whatever decision you make. God love you, my heart goes out to you and I will pray for clarity and strength. hugs... Barbara Gilmer
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Not the quill but it's use. Scottish Motto
|Posted on Thursday, March 01, 2007 - 12:12 pm: ||
I received a call at 6:30 Monday morning from a friend of my father in Virginia. Calls to my cell phone at any hour are rare but at this ungodly hour gave me a particularly queasy feeling. Of course, being sound asleep, I did not get to the phone so I instead got a voice mail message telling me that my father was in ICU and had apparently had a stroke. There was mention of Congestive heart failure and Pneumonia as well, all of which complicated matters. He is on a ventilator.
At the moment I don't know much more but apparently he had a massive stroke and they are expecting heavy brain damage. They are still assessing this and because of the drugs he is on (sedation) it might yet be a couple days. There has been mention of feeding tubes and tracheotomies and difficult decisions. Apparently Virginia law dictates that, as he is unmarried and has no health care directive, I am responsible, as the eldest child, for making life-decisions. My sister, and I are now considering going to VA because to make these kind of decisions we must assess the situation ourselves and not through third party hearsay. We have heard many conflicting stories of what all is wrong.
As for our relationship with him, I guess that, too, is complex. We saw him a few months ago... he came down for a couple days. I spoke with him last around the second of December... he was waxing nostalgic I suppose... he told me that he and my mom would have been married forty years that day.
It is hard to undo 38 years of indifference, but I do believe that perhaps he was trying. I never wished ill on him and I hate this. A debilitating stroke is my own worst nightmare and I have very little insight on his feelings toward healthcare decisions of this magnitude. Please keep all of us in your thoughts.
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