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 Women against Violence Behind the Mask Challenge 2/19/2008
 If You Are Fortunate Birthdays 8/25/2013
 Grandpa Si and Ben Childrens Poetry 2/20/2008
 Building A Memory Childrens Poetry 2/11/2008
 Grandpa Si and Ben Childrens Poetry 11/17/2018
 Little Blessings from God Childrens Poetry 2/23/2008
 They Built A Memory Childrens Poetry 3/7/2011
 Cherub Face Childrens Poetry 2/23/2016
 Orphic Dark Poetry 9/10/2018
 A Gift for Grandma Dedications 3/27/2008
 The Threshold Dedications 1/26/2009
 I Am Your Sister Dedications 5/21/2012
 The Sound of Silence (the poem) Dedications 7/6/2012
 Will You Be There When I Say Goodbye Dedications 5/9/2015
 Heaven's Door Dedications 5/4/2015
 How Do I Say Thank You Dedications 3/8/2013
 Why Am I Different Dedications 4/11/2012
 At Sea Dedications 3/28/2008
 Untimely Death Dedications 2/22/2011
 My Grandma’s House Dedications 3/28/2008
 Heaven's Door Dedications 9/3/2018
 The Touch of My Mother's Hands Dedications 5/7/2008
 The Chatty Little Frog Fantasy Poems 3/26/2016
 Memory Loss Friends 3/28/2008
 The Warmth of Friendship Friends 2/22/2008
 I Wish For You Friends 3/19/2008
 The City of Broken Heart Grieving and Loss 9/6/2013
 Lamentation Grieving and Loss 9/10/2018
 Thank You Mommy and Daddy Grieving and Loss 1/1/2013
 A Mother's Broken Heart Grieving and Loss 3/5/2016
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Women against Violence

Let me tell you a little about myself, I am a former police office, and a God loving Christian. I have seen it all. I have taken class after class on battering, emotional abuse, physical abuse, and rape. I could go on and on... I learned that the abuser picked this up at home. I learned the abuser, without counseling, will continue to abuse.

I have witnessed abuse over and over again as a police officer. One lady had been beaten so badly her left eye was almost out of its socket; we took her report, contacted the shelter, and was able to get her the medical attention she needed.. When it came time for her to press charges, she dropped them and went back to her abuser.

With Gods help you can leave and not look back. For some reason the victim feels she/he deserves this kind of treatment, or, they feel there is no place for them to go. Lack of education, child care, transportation, and funds keep the victim in that environment.

Recently I wrote a poem called ‘D.I.V.O.R.C.E.’ I didn’t write the poem about me; I wrote it because my daughter is going through a divorce. She had been a victim of abuse for over thirty years. I pleaded with her to get out before it destroyed her entire family. I prayed and prayed for her and her situation. After thirty two years she made that decision.

My daughter and her family have suffered at his hands far to long. She is fortunate. There are a lot of women who continue to return to their abusers only to lose their lives. The abuser has to have complete control of his victim. My daughter has a close friend that is a social worker; they work together with ‘The ARC’ in Ohio. She has canceled my daughter and I believe she was instrumental in my daughter’s final decision. Her sister has been a great encouragement to her too. They are her rock; her children have been her rock, and God has been her solid rock.

She is a God loving woman, a gentle woman, kind, soft-hearted, and I could go on and on about her attributes.

Did you know that the controlling abuser chooses women like her? They seek out those they can easily control. When the abused woman gets her ‘back bone’ the abuser goes into a rage. They wear two faces, one for the public, and the other at home; The abuser will never change unless they seek help.

If you or anyone you know is a victim, please, please steer them in the right direction and give them channels they can forge. We can’t tell a woman in this situation what to do but we did give them the tools to work with.

There is help out there. If you are abused, please seek help either with your minister, church, or shelters for the abused.

Written by Janice Bumbalough Marler
February 18, 2008

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