Core of Abuse
glitter-graphics.com
Like all things abuse has a root that is deeply planted and if a child lives in an abusive situation she or he will grow up in an abusive atmosphere until they realize where the core of the abuse started.
Abuse can start with another sibling controlling the other to the point of teasing which escalates to physical which escalates farther.
Parents should take control of their children and not allow the older children to control the smaller or they may take advantage.
Some children feed on the power and control and refuse to relinquish it.
glitter-graphics.com
The younger child wants to be accepted by the older child, wishes to be their friend or sister or brother.
The abuser sees the child as one that gets all the attention or the one that threatens their position with a parent.
This behavior makes them slam the other down when they think their position is threatened.
It can be by a younger child being an over achiever, and making the older child feel in adequate. It can be by one parent being partial to the other.
Children sense when another sibling is threatening their position with a parent, and will step in and take control regardless of age, and justifying their actions.
Sometimes they will take a step father and give their friends control as well shaming the child into submission as they reposition themselves.
They will step up and take control repositioning themselves with the parent and sometimes excluding other siblings if they seem fit.
They will spread lies.
They will beat the weaker down until they are defeated and the moment they fall they are there as if judge and juror showing no sympathy.
With older parents to weak to fight back they die in defeat as winner takes all. When in reality they lost it all!
With no family to call their own, they go to sleep alone
Women fleeing from the abuse one after the other
While the abuser searches for his mother, and the little girl cries out for her father.
With the only memory being scarred childhood memories.
By Patricia Kriegel
© 2009 Patricia Kriegel
(All rights reserved)
| |