There are times in our lives when
misunderstandings come, and there
seems to be no remedy for them, many
times they come about because of two
different ways of thinking and looking
at a situation; I have thought lately of
a young mother of two who was at the
Rescue Mission where I spent a summer
of my life, I did the laundry for the
Mission and gave out bedding, her little
girl wet the bed at night and she often
needed clean sheets and blankets, one
night she came to me for another blanket,
when I gave it to her, she was offended
because she felt I should have given her
one that was much nicer, in her mind, this
was due to the fact she was black, and
nothing I could say ever changed that,
we had been close and I had talked with her
a lot, but this thing that happened caused
a rift between us that was never totally
mended, her feelings were completely wrong
but she was not open to seeing it any other
way, this always saddened me each time I saw
her as I know the loss for her was a great
as the loss I felt
I can think of at least five people with
whom this kind of thing has happened
in my life, not the same circumstance but
the judging in their mind of my heart and
what they thought was there, how does this
happen we wonder; many times people attribute
to others what is in their own heart or they
want us to do that which is their desire
and when we don't, they are offended and
blame it on something within us, I have two
friends I dearly love, they both felt I should
have done, in the physical realm, something to
help them and when I could not they took offense
in some way, both believing I should have done
differently, the thing that made it sad for
me is I would have liked to be there for
them but it was simply something I could
not do, my obedience to God and the plan
for my life was in another direction, I
wonder how many others have had this
kind of thing happen, or in conversation
you have said a thing that was taken in
a way that was completely out of context
and the rift began, the person was hurt
or angry
These things occur, misunderstandings
have continued for years, perhaps a thought
in someone's mind about you that never
even happened, yet they have carried
it for years and held it against you, the
pain that comes to ones heart when this
occurs is difficult to overcome, many
times it is a weight on our mind and
heart, so hard to lay it down and go on,
I have found, when my heart is right
and there was no wrong intent, and the
wrong was in the thinking of the other
person, I still feel the sadness and loss of
that one in my life and the laughter
and closeness that once was there, or
the casual wave of the hand as you
passed in your daily lives if the person
was someone you saw occasionally; it is
a good thing to understand that there
are times in our lives when we must go
on, our path goes in a different direction
than another, in that case, or any other,
we must look at our own heart and if it
is right in it's intent, we give that other
person to our Father, and walk on in our life,
perhaps, just perhaps, our paths will cross again
By
josharon
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